When my husband and I began pursuing fertility treatments, each two-week wait felt a little longer than the cycle before. Time dragged on, and on, and on, especially during the last few days of every two-week stretch.
Eventually I began making “2-week wait bucket lists” and posting them on our refrigerator. My lists often consisted of things I could accomplish or focus on alone, but they also included things my husband and I could do together. Looking back, I wish I’d included more things on my lists that my husband and I could do together.
- Praying together daily: When we are at our lowest, or when our anxiety levels are at their highest, it is so important to focus on what we have been given, rather than on what we are lacking. This is so difficult when we are so often surrounded by the very things we are longing for but don’t yet have. I remember having to avoid shopping at Target stores during my two-week waits because I simply could not handle seeing so many moms with babies. I wish I had used the time to thank God for the amazing gifts He had given us, instead of being envious of the ones He hadn’t. And I wish I’d done this alongside my husband more often so that we could hold one another accountable.
- Picking a book to read together: Even if you only get through a few pages each evening before bed, this is a great way to be intentional about spending quality time together.
- Going for walks: Throughout all of our two-week waits, some of the best moments happened when my husband and I went on evening walks together. Our best conversations, our best quiet times. There is something about spending time outdoors with the one you love that brings life back into weary, dry bones.
- Planning and going on a daytrip together: After spending so much money on fertility treatments, we never felt comfortable planning any elaborate trips, but we did things like driving to flea markets in neighboring towns, visiting an Amish village, and going to local attractions that we’d never seen before. You can do something as fancy or as simple as you like!
- Making baby name lists: Have your husband work on a list of boy names while you work on a list of girl names, and then visa versa. Then share and compare lists, and come up with a master list of your favorites. We spent lots of time doing this, and it always elevated our mood. Although I’m not sure how productive the actual list-making was, it sure did leave us with lots of sweet memories.
- Spending time cooking or baking together: Make it your goal to cook one meal and one sweet treat together during your two-week wait. You can spread these out over two different nights, or make a date night of it and do both in the same day.
- Going out for a meal somewhere neither of you have ever been: Once Baby arrives, your date nights will come to a screeching halt for a while, so be adventurous, do a little research, and pick a place neither of you have ever been before and don’t know much about.
- Having a picnic together: This goes back to the whole outdoors thing. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. We had our picnics at a park with a walking trail and duck pond. We were able to walk after we ate, and then feed the ducks. Every time I take my daughter to that park now, I remember the times her daddy and I went without her, wishing more than anything in the world that we had a sweet little one of our own to show the ducks to, to push on the swings, and just to live life with… and now we have her!
- Going to a movie: This is something you definitely won’t be doing much once your sweet little one arrives, so you may as well enjoy it now!
- Doing something crafty together: Find a local painting, pottery, or other art class that you can attend together.
What are some ideas that you would add to this list? I’d love to hear how you and your significant other have passed the time during your two-week waits!